Grief recovery
What grieving looks like and what helps
Phases
- 1
Acute phase
Shock, numbness, crying, insomnia — normal reactions. Task: basic needs (food, sleep, safety), no big decisions.
- 2
Grieving
Waves of sadness, anger, guilt come and go. Allow the feelings, don't 'hold on'.
- 3
Reconnection
Finding a new place for the person in life — memory, rituals, talking.
- 4
Growth
Gradual return of energy and meaning; grief doesn't 'pass' — it integrates.
There's no 'correct' grief timeline. Warning signs to see a specialist: no feelings for months, thoughts of joining the deceased, total loss of function. Explain to kids simply and honestly — 'gone forever' beats 'fell asleep'.